There are times in your life when you
feel like you need to say something. Not because you are a man and
“mansplaining” which is a term I hate because no matter what
gender you are we all do it. But, men, we are at a time in history
where learning to shut the fuck up, don't get involved, and picking
your battles is more important than ever. Today guys are throwing
themselves on grenades that are in the other room. They will hear
something in passing and chime in. They will start an argument just
because it is a thing to do and it is way out of hand now. They
consider it a debate or discussion when in reality they are unhappy
with their life in some way and looking for anything to distract them
from dealing with it. “Why would I waste my time cleaning my house,
taking better care of my body, and being nice to my people when there
are women trying to walk around topless in New York?! What? No. I
live in California, but still. Topless!”
Over the last few years I have made an
effort to stand down more. Not because of society or because what is
allegedly between my legs. But because it is just not worth my time
to get involved in shit that does not concern me. I would lose my
mind overhearing stupid things people were saying especially if they
were talking about something I knew a lot about. But the strangest
thing happened when I stopped doing it. I had more free time to think
about things that interested me. I would just think “Damn, they are
really confident in their ignorance” and continue about my day.
A lot of people get called selfish but
I don't think that is the right word for it. If more people were
selfish they would consider doing things that made their days better
and the people around them that they cared about. I think the proper
term is inconsiderate. Cutting someone off on the road because those
few extra feet of space to get to a job you hate faster is selfish.
Chasing a car down while cutting off others and putting multiple
lives in danger while texting is inconsiderate. So when you consider
jumping into a conversation that does not involve you consider
standing down for a few moments. See? The moment you could've jumped
in has passed. The topic has changed quickly because people really
don't know how to have conversations anymore. You now get to go about
your day without leaving the room and being called an asshole because
you threw your hat into the ring when it was not asked for. Stand
down. Move on.
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