Grown Ass Man Tips: Keeping Your Cool

Throwing tantrums only works if you are a toddler or an attractive woman. If you are a grown ass man that starts yelling when you don't get your way chances are people are talking about you behind your back. Sadly, you may not even know that you are doing the opposite of keeping your cool and you're being a punk ass bitch. Yeah. No one wants to be that but how do you know you're being one if no one tells you? The thing is we now live in a time where asking for the truth is only safe around friends and some family. Not all of them because we all know aunt Patty is a gossip. 

There are many ways to learn how to keep your cool. Taking deep breaths. Counting to ten. Learning how to meditate. Float tanks. Exercising some of that bitchassness away. One way to check your keeping cool levels is to ask yourself a few questions and be honest about it. If someone cuts you off in traffic what do you do? Now ask someone who rides in the car with you what you do. If the grocery line is long what sounds do you make? Are they bitch sounds like heavy sighing or passive aggressive watch checking even though you ain't wearing one? When someone raises their voice do you take that as a chance to raise yours even louder?

You ain't keeping your cool.

Keeping your cool isn't about being cool. Those are two different things and I could never in my almost 40 years teach you how to be something I'm not. I just know as the fifth of six children and someone who has had to raise his voice three times in the last 17 years that not keeping your cool is the best way to be seen as weak and easily moved. All your favorite movie characters never lost their shit...except the assholes. You are no Jack Nicholson. People see you pounding your steering wheel and screaming things at people that can not hear you. They read your shitty comments online and even though they may make you smile thinking of the fact that you said something online that you would never say to someone's face it doesn't make you cool. People are confusing snarky and glib with witty and clever. It's not cool in any way to blow your top. What happens to people that do not know how to stay cool in situations is that they begin to be left out. People stop telling them things for fear of them exploding. If you are walking around today wondering why you were the last to find out some information that everyone else seems to know try to think back to how you handled yourself publicly around these same people and get your shit together. Do you want to be known as emotional? I didn't think so.

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