I was trolling around and stumbled
across a Cosmo advice column. People write in and ask a question an
Logan Hill answers. The question that was asked was short but, my
god, was his response long. I am gonna try to trim a lot of what he
said but keep the spirit of his answer because you don't want to read
all of his bullshit. I say that now but watch how long my response
ends up being.
Question: My boyfriend asked me - yes,
asked me - for a blow job, and I suggested sex instead. He started a
huge fight because I declined his blow job request and said something
about how I never give him BJs. Actually, I had given him one two
nights before. Why was it such a big deal that he started a fight
over a blow job? And how do I stop it from happening in the future
without just giving him a BJ every day?
Logan: Obviously, saying no is no big
deal - you're right about that. It's your right to give blow jobs at
a time and place of your choosing. You shouldn't feel pressured to do
anything against your desire. There's no blow job-per-week quota. And
I think we can all agree that a counter-offer of actual sex is a
pretty reasonable compromise. But that wasn't your question. You
asked: Why was it such a big deal to your boyfriend?
